This works well if you take turns. You do your partner’s back; they do your back, etc. These feather-light strokes are done as follows:

Move your hands so that your fingertips are barely brushing against your partner’s skin. Touch them very gently, just at the edge of the hairs. Work up and down the entire length of the body. Sometimes go slowly, sometimes a little faster. Sometimes in straight lines, sometimes in circles or spirals.

You may want to try using just the tip of one finger of one hand to do these light strokes. Although it will look like you are using your whole hand, just touching your partner with one finger will give them a whole different sensation.

Start these light strokes on your partner’s back, gently rubbing up and down on either side of the spine. Go all the way down to the buttocks, and gently run your hands around each cheek. Then move on down to the back of the knee on one leg and gently move your hands around in small circles. Then move down to the ankle, glide your hand over the ankle and around the sole of the foot. Next, keeping your hand touching your partner, move over to the other leg and gently glide you hands up to the knee on that leg. Continue on up to the buttock again and up to the back of the neck. Gently, glide your hands around your partner’s neck and behind the ears. Use both hands one on either side, and trace small circles around under their hair.

Have your partner turn over now. Trace the outline of their face with your finger; go around their eyes and across their cheeks, then across their forehead. Using the light strokes trace around your partner’s mouth and down their chin.

Continue these light strokes up and down your partner’s body clear to the feet, avoiding the genitals at this moment. Be sure to gently massage the inside of your partner’s thighs, one at a time.

Begin with the breasts, this applies to both men and women. Don’t neglect the breasts on a man.

Place the tips of both thumbs next to and on opposite sides of one nipple, bring your thumbs outward from the nipple, slowly and with gentle pressure. Then bring your thumbs back to the nipple and start over again. Continue making these outward-radiating lines on your partner’s chest like the spokes of a wheel, until you have covered the entire breast, then do the same thing on the other breast.

Next using the heel of your hand gently rub around the breast in circular motions. Don’t touch the nipples at this time. Gently massage around the chest and then switch back to the gentle feather-light strokes. Do this around the breasts and then up to your partners neck and throat. Continue these light strokes down your partner’s torso, to their feet.

At the feet, run your fingers in and out between each pair of toes and around the sole of the foot. Then gently stroke up the thigh and, deliberately avoiding the genitals, stroke down the other thigh.

Now we have come to the step where all the massage oils find their place. The duroil may be used around and on the outer parts of the genitals, and in the cleft near the anus, the vigorell in the womens most intimate areas, and the VigRx oil on the mans glans and inner foreskin.

Using your right hand, start at the perineum (the area between the genitals and the anus) and stroke up an down onto this area with the fingers of your right hand.

With your left hand you may rub along the cleft between the buttcocks, separate the buttocks with your fingers so that the rectal opening is gently stretched, massage with the fingers of your left hand at each side of the inside of the butt cleft.

Now move your right hand towards the genitals and gently rub the base of the penis (on a man) or the outside of the vagina (on a woman) with your finger tips.

Then, on a man take both your hands and gently rub his penis betwwen the fingers of both your hands. Beginning at the base, rub both hands in opposite directions, as if you are rubbing them to make them warm, but with his penis in the middle. Do this all the way to the top and back down. Do it gently. Also gently strech the skin of the penis down so that also the penis head is gently streched, and then also stretch the penile skin the opposite way so that also the scrotal skin is gently stetched upwords. And now stroke his penis gently some times from the base to the top between the fingers of your right hand.

On a woman, continue rocking your hand back and forth at the edge of her vagina. Then take one finger and trace an outline around her vagina, gently down the side of her leg, and back up edging closer and closer to the vaginal lips. Then from the top of the vagina, take both fingers and move straight down, between the inner and outer vaginal lips. Spread your fingers slightly apart, one to the left and one to the right, as you move slowly down to the perineum and back up again.

Don’t be afraid to use something other than your hands, such as feathers, fur mittens, your mouth, or anything else you can think of. Experiment and have fun.
I guarantee the more you explore your partner’s body and their response to your touches, the more your relationship will be enriched. It is another way to get to know one another and getting to know someone is always a good thing.

Yoni (pronounced YO-NEE) is a Sanskrit word for the vagina that is loosely translated as "Sacred Space" or "Sacred Temple." Its meaning and use is an alternate perspective from the Western view of the female genitals (i.e., Pussy, Cunt, Twat, etc., words which may or may not be complimentary depending on the intent of their usage). In Tantra, the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect. This is especially helpful for men to learn.

The purpose of the Yoni Massage is to create a space for the woman (the receiver) to relax, and enter a state of high arousal and experience much pleasure from her Yoni. Her partner (the giver) experiences the joy of being of service and witnessing a special moment. The Yoni Massage can also be used as a form of safer sex (when latex gloves are used) and is an excellent activity to build trust and intimacy. Some massage and sex therapists use it to assist women to break through sexual blocks or trauma.

The goal of the Yoni massage is not orgasm. Orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is simply to pleasure and massage the Yoni/vagina. From this perspective both receiver and giver can relax, and not have to worry about achieving something. When orgasm does occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying. Orgasm is allowed to happen or not happen.

It is also helpful for the giver to not expect anything in return. Just allow the receiver to enjoy the massage and to relax into herself afterwards. Of course, other sexual activity may follow but it should be entirely the receiver's choice. This perspective will build greater intimacy and trust, and will greatly expand your sexual horizons.

Bathing is always helpful as it relaxes both the receiver and giver. A quiet space is desirable with pleasing music, candles, pillows, etc., or whatever makes the participants relax and feel safe. Allow yourself enough time and do not hurry through the process.

Go to the bathroom before beginning the massage. The best results will occur when the bowels and bladder are empty and you will avoid the unnecessary experience of interrupting the massage to go to the bathroom.

Connect with your partner by hugging, holding, eye gazing (looking into each other's eyes for an extended time), or whatever brings you to a place of safety and relaxation.

Have the receiver lie on her back with pillows under her head so she can look down at her genitals and up at her partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under her hips. Her legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and her genitals clearly exposed for the massage.

The giver sits cross-legged between the receivers' legs. The giver may wish to sit on a pillow or cushion. This position allows full access to the Yoni and other parts of the body.

Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Both giver and receiver should remember to keep breathing deeply, slowly and with relaxation during the entire process. The giver will gently remind the receiver to start breathing again if the receiver stops or takes shallower breaths. Deep breathing, not hyperventilating, is very important here.

Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, breasts, etc., to get the receiver to relax and for the giver to prepare for touching the Yoni.

Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil or lubricant (Vigorelle) on the mound of the Yoni. Pour just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of the Yoni. (Several excellent sexual lubricants are available for this. Many lingerie shops, sex toy shops, sex magazines, etc., offer these safe lubricants.)

Begin gently massaging the mound and outer lips of the Yoni. Spend some time here and do not rush. Relax and enjoy giving the massage. Gently squeeze the outer lip between the thumb and index finger, and slide up and down the entire length of each lip. Do the same thing to the inner lips of the Yoni/vagina. Take your time.

The receiver can massage her own breasts or may just relax and continue breathing deeply. It is helpful for giver and receiver to look into each other's eyes as much as possible. The receiver can tell the giver if the pressure, speed, depth, etc., needs to be increased or decreased. Limit your speaking and focus on the pleasurable sensations. (It is my experience that too much talking gets one out of their feelings and diminishes the effects.)

Gently stroke the clitoris with clockwise and counter-clockwise circles. Gently squeeze it between thumb and index fingers. Do this as a massage and not to get the receiver off. The receiver will undoubtedly become very aroused but continue to encourage her to just relax and breathe.

Slowly and with great care, insert the middle finger of your right hand into the Yoni (there is a reason for using the right hand as opposed to the left. It has to do with polarity in Tantra). Very gently explore and massage the inside of the Yoni/ vagina with this finger. Take your time, be gentle, and feel up, down and sideways. Vary the depth, speed and pressure. Remember, this is a massage and you're nurturing and relaxing the Yoni.

With your palm facing up, and the middle finger inside the Yoni, move the middle finger in a "come here" gesture or crook back towards the palm. You will contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic bone, behind the clitoris. This is the G-spot or in Tantra, the sacred spot (there are many excellent books that go into detail about this area). Your partner may feel as if they have to urinate or it may be painful or pleasurable. Again vary the pressure, speed and pattern of movement. You can move side to side, back and forth, or in circles with your middle finger. You can also insert the finger that's between your middle finger and pinkie. Check with your partner first before sticking two fingers into them. Most women should have no problem and will enjoy the increased stimulation from two fingers. Take your time and be very gentle. You may use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the clitoris as well.

An option to try if the receiver wants it is to insert the pinkie of the right hand into her anus. Ask her first and do not insert your pinkie into her Yoni/vagina after it has been in her anus. Use lubrication and be very gentle.

(In Tantra, it is said that when your pinkie is in her anus, the next finger and middle finger in her Yoni/vagina, and your thumb on her clitoris, "You are holding one of the mysteries of the universe in your hand.")

So, what is your left hand doing all this time? You can use it to massage the breasts, abdomen, or clitoris. If you massage the clitoris it's usually best to use your thumb in an up down motion, with the rest of your hand resting on and massaging the mound. The dual stimulation of right and left hands will provide much pleasure for the receiver. I do not recommend using your left hand to touch your own genitals because it may take your focus off the receiver. Remember, this massage is for her pleasure and much of the benefit comes from not only the physical stimulation but the intent as well.

Continue massaging, trying different speeds, pressures and motions. Keep breathing and looking into each other's eyes. She may have powerful emotions come up and may cry. Just keep breathing and be gentle. Some women have been sexually abused and need to be healed. A giving, loving and patient partner can be of great value to her.

If she has an orgasm, keep her breathing, and continue massaging if she wants. More orgasms may occur, each gaining in intensity. In Tantra this is called "riding the wave." Many women can learn how to be multi-orgasmic with the Yoni Massage and a very patient partner.

Keep massaging until she tells you to stop. Very slowly, gently, and with respect, remove your hands. Allow her to just lay there and enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very soothing as well. As you learn to master the Yoni Massage your sex life will be greatly enriched and you will learn a great deal about feminine sexuality.

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