A strong sexual satisfaction consists of  a good physical arousal and a high enough mental excitement. Another component of the total satisfaction are strong and pleasant feelings in your intimate zones upon physical caresses and by intercourse. Still another component is a full and long orgasm with intense feelings.

If your sexual life has become a routinous and boring practise, all those componenets of sexual satisfaction suffer. Here are some tips you can use to make your sexual life as exciting as possible.

On the market you can find many herbs or herbal blendings capable of increasing the sexual arousal. Many arousing herbs are also found as common spices. Examples of arousing herbs are ginseng, roseroot, cinnamon, cayenne, cardamom, ginger, damiana, horny goat weed, catuaba, maca, muira pauma and cuscuta. The herbs can arouse you both by their taste, their scent and by a physiological stimulation on the nerves and blood circulation.

The herbs create a general sexual mood in your mind and intimate zones, make these zones more sensible for stimulation and facilitate sexual reactions. Most herbal preparations are to be taken as a single dose each day. It is also a good idea to spice up your food with some of these herbs a day you want to have a strong sexual experience.

The body produces many types of smells and scents. Most of these scents are sexually stimulating in the right degree, but too much can be repulsing and decrease sexual excitement. In the daily life your hands and your body also come in contact with a lot of substances, like foods and oily stuff. The smell of most of these substances will often decrease the sexaul arousal.

It is therefore a good idea to wash or shower the whole body some time before sex, using a mild and neutral soap. Do not however, overwash with strong soaps or cleaning mediums that smell strongly. A strong smell of sope or cleaning substances is not erotic.

You should wash some time before you have sex in order to let your body have time to produce some of its own exciting scents before you make love.

It is also a good idea to groom your body with some body lotion or oil of good quality. This oil should have an arousing scent, but not smell to strong.

A way of making both yourself and your partner aroused is the use of erotic perfumes or pheromone preparations on your body. These preparations contain substances, so-called pheromones, that trigger receptors in the nose directly connected to the brain centres involved in sexual arousal. They also contain substances that trigger sexual excitement by their consciously sensed smells.

Some of these substances give a distinctly feminine mark, others give a distinctly masculine signal and others are common to men and women. Therefore preparations of pheromones are often made in special versions for men and women.

Perfumes with smell of flowers or the like should be avoided. These types of perfumes may smell pleasantly, but they take the mind away from sexual thoughts

You can excite each other heavily by using sensual outer clothes and sexy underwear. You can use clothes with exciting colours or with colours or shapes triggering your erotic fantasy. The clothes should attract your attention towards your most intimate areas, for example by means of lines or structures pointing that way. Your clothes should also visualize the shape of your intimate zones and the shape of body parts you find especially attractive. Your clothes should look like an invitation to erotic activities, but without looking too vulgar. Avoid heavy or voluminous clothes looking like an armament. Such clothes signal to your partner that you do not want sex, that you are afraid of sex or afraid of your partner.

A careful use of make-up in order to strengthen and underline special attractive traits in you face can increase the excitement, for example some darkening of your eyebrows or some shading under your eyes. Heavy use of make-up will have the opposite effect. It will make your partner wonder what really is under that make-up, your partner will feel the make-up as a shield around you, and your partner will be constantly afraid of disturbing your make-up.

A simple, elegant and fanciful, but still natural-looking, heir-cut and hair colouring can also greatly enhance the excitement. However, a heavy hairstyle looking like a major artwork will take the attention away from erotic thoughts and thus have the opposite effect.

A romantic atmosphere will help to bring forth the sexual arousal, and there are many ingredients that together make such an atmosphere. The surrounding must be tidy and colourful. The colours should generally be somewhat discrete and held in a warm tune, but with some spots having a stronger colour, for example a carpet covering the sofa you sit in and the linen of the bed where you intend to make love. Having discretely coloured lamps in the background, or some colourful flowers or ornamental objects will complete the visual part of the atmosphere. The temperature of the air must be pleasant, somewhat warm, but not too warm. Pleasant and relaxing music will complete the picture.

Furthermore, the setting must be such that you naturally drew your attention towards each other. There should be some comfortable place where you feel it natural to sit or lie down near each other. The light in the surroundings should be dimmed, but with a somewhat stronger light upon the place where you intend to make love.

The food you eat some time before sex can greatly enhance your excitement and lust, or have the opposite effect, depending of the composition of your meal. You should have a meal that stimulates all your senses. It should contain ingredients with bright colours and you should use sensual and aromatic spices like cinnamon, ginger, musket and cardamom. Some amount of strong spices like cayenne or chilli will stimulate your bodily reactions and thereby make you more aroused.

Coffee or tea stimulate the activities of the central nervous system, and thus also the sexual excitement. A cup or coffee or tea just before the sexual act will often enhance your sexual mood. Small amounts of alcohol will help to take away tension and worries and make room in your mind for erotic thoughts and feelings, but heavy drinking will destroy your erotic intentions.

LOOK AT SOME EXCITING VISUAL STUFF

Looking at pictures in an erotic magazine or at an erotic video that depict sexy people and erotic situations can stimulate the right mood for making love. The best pictures and videos are those showing some new and surprising ways of making love. The best visual material will give you ideas about new things you can do yourselves. Directly comic pictures or videos should be avoided, because they awake other feelings than sexual excitement, but some degree of humour is fine.

THE FOREPLAY IS THE ENTRANCE TO A FULLY SATISFYING ACT

The foreplay is important to increase your excitement maximally, and there are many things you can include in the foreplay. Kisses and caresses are classical ingredients in the foreplay, both when you still have your clothes on and later in your naked state. You should always take your time to kiss and caress each other, but you should also use your fantasy and play with each other in steadily new ways.

You can for example gently unclothe each other instead of each of you take off one's own clothes. Also place your partner or yourself in surprising and intriguing positions. Then you caress each other with gentle movements. Begin by caressing neutral body areas and gradually get closer to the erotic zones of the body, and eventually stimulate the most intimate zones by gentle strokes or gentle fingering.

During the foreplay and the sexual act it is often natural that one of you take a leading role, but you should try to shift being the leader, either from time to time or during different faces in the sexual act.

EROTIC AND SENSUAL MASSAGE

Massage can be a good way of enhancing your sexual excitement. The massage will help you to relax and take away the daily tension and worries. When these disturbing elements are pacified, your mind have greater place for erotic thoughts and feelings. The massage will also directly stimulate the feelings and reactions in your erotic zones. When massaging, begin very gently and increase the intensity gradually. Also approach the most intimate zones of your body gradually. However, do not massage too systematically. Use your fantasy and do some surprising manipulations.

TOPICAL BALSAMS FOR EROTIC STIMULATION

On the market you can find a lot of oils or ointments you can use during erotic massage that have an arousing scents and a pleasurable consistency. The oils makes the fingers glide more smoothly against the zones you massage and increase the pleasure during the massage. Some of these oils are to be used on greater body parts.

Other oils are especially made to use in the most intimate body zones. These oils will give lubrication to ease intercourse, but will also often have ingredients that directly stimulate feelings and sexual reactions, for example enhancing the erections of the penis, enhancing the engorgement of the female lips and clitoris, increasing the vaginal secretions or creating exciting physical feelings by stimulation of the nerve endings or sensual bodies.

Especially during the foreplay you can tease up the feelings and general excitement of both you and your lover by use of erotic toys for outer massage and for penetration into the inside of your bodies through your vagina or anus. In the depth of your inner areas that you can reach with a dildo or a bead of arious shapes and sizes, there are a lot of very sensual zones that cannot be easily stimulated from the outside or even by penetration with the penis or a finger. Such toys will also gie other types of feelings ean at zones you can reach otherways.

By means of such toys you can gently and more vigorously massage the sensual points, you can stimulate them by stretching out the walls of your inner zones and you can stimulate them by vibrations from toys with integrated vibrator mechanism.

When having sex, just laying streight out on the back all the time is not the best choise for the person being layed, nor is it the best choise for the person penetrating to just position himself over his lover. Both of you should vary the positions, and especially should you flex out your legs in various ways to open up your intimeta clefts and thus achieving three objectives.

You give your lover an arousing sight so that he or she gets more excited, and an excited lover will please you in a better and more fierce manner. The various kind of flexing will stretch the sensual areas in your body and by this mechanical action gives you stronger sensations.

Spreading yourself out and thus exposing the inner parts of your vulva or your rectal opening further give a profond psychological impact both to yourself and your lover.